Private chefs in high-net-worth households are often responsible not just for the principals, but for their children as well. Whether it’s preparing nutritious meals, catering to picky eaters, or managing food allergies, cooking for children in private households requires flexibility, discretion, and clear boundaries.
Here is how to navigate this part of the job with professionalism while still delivering excellent care and cuisine.
Understanding Client Expectations
Align with the Family’s Philosophy
Every family has its own approach to nutrition. Some prefer organic, plant-based meals while others may follow specific cultural or religious food traditions. During onboarding or menu planning, ask:
- Are there specific dietary goals for the children?
- Are processed foods restricted?
- Is sugar limited or avoided entirely?
- Are snacks expected to be available throughout the day?
Understanding the household’s food culture helps you create meals that meet expectations without overstepping boundaries.
Respect Parental Preferences
Even if you have strong culinary opinions, parents call the shots. Be sure to:
- Avoid pushing unfamiliar foods unless requested
- Ask before introducing supplements or health foods
- Respect timing and portion guidelines
- Document changes in appetite or new preferences
The goal is to support the family’s values, not override them.
Balancing Nutrition with Palatability
Make Healthy Food Enjoyable
Children may resist certain ingredients, but presentation and preparation go a long way. Consider:
- Hiding vegetables in sauces or smoothies
- Creating fun plating (smiley faces, shapes, colors)
- Offering dipping sauces or interactive meals
- Using mild seasoning to avoid strong flavors
A skilled private chef finds ways to make healthy meals appealing without compromising nutritional value.
Manage Picky Eating Respectfully
When dealing with selective eaters:
- Keep calm and avoid pressure
- Offer options without becoming a short-order cook
- Keep favorite staples on hand for backup
- Rotate new ingredients slowly into familiar meals
Communication with parents is key — they should always be in the loop on what’s working and what’s not.
Common Requests in UHNW Households
Special Diets or Allergies
Many children have:
- Gluten or dairy sensitivities
- Peanut or tree nut allergies
- Preferences for vegan or vegetarian meals
- Doctor-prescribed food plans
Always double-check ingredients, cross-contamination risks, and pantry protocols. Consider separate prep areas or cookware when required.
After-School Snacks and School Lunches
It is common for chefs to be asked to:
- Prepare ready-to-go school lunches
- Stock fridges with healthy after-school snacks
- Provide simple, comforting meals post-activities
- Make homemade versions of kids’ favorite treats
Ask if lunches should be environmentally conscious, allergy-safe for school policies, or packaged in specific containers.
Maintaining Professional Boundaries
You Are Not the Nanny
Even when you see children regularly, your role remains culinary. Avoid:
- Disciplining children
- Sharing personal advice with parents about child-rearing
- Getting emotionally entangled in family dynamics
Be friendly and supportive, but stay focused on your duties in the kitchen.
Limit Direct Involvement Unless Invited
Some households may want you to serve the children directly, while others prefer nannies to handle meal service. Always ask:
- Should meals be plated and left in the kitchen?
- Are you expected to supervise mealtimes?
- Should meals be eaten with adults or separately?
Following household protocols shows respect for both structure and privacy.
Final Thoughts
Cooking for children in high-net-worth households requires patience, precision, and excellent communication. When done right, it’s a meaningful part of the job that builds trust and strengthens your role in the household.
When you’re ready for your next chef placement, The Chef Agency connects chefs with families who value not just your food — but your professionalism and care.